Divorcing Well

This week on Divorcing Well, I am joined by Carol Hughes and Bruce Fredenburg, authors of Home Will Never Be the Same Again, a book that serves as a guide for adult children of grey divorce.

Carol and Bruce are members of Collaborative Divorce Solutions of Orange County, and often deal with grey divorce cases, through which they have learned that adult children are large stakeholders in such cases.

We discuss what the term grey divorce means, why they are on the rise, and the challenges that can arise from them.

Find Carol on drcarolhughes.com and divorcepeacemaking.com. 

Find Bruce on psychologytoday.com under Bruce Fredenburg and orangecountydivorcecoach.com.

In today’s episode of Divorcing Well, I am chatting with Nina Kako and Roger Guertin about a topic that is unique on my podcast: how to keep your marriage together.

Nina and Roger, who have been married for 18 years, share with listeners how they sustain a happy, healthy marriage. Tune in to learn about their keys to success.

You can find Nina and Roger on their podcast, The Head Over Heels Show, which comes out every Tuesday on all platforms.

Also, find them on Instagram @headoverheelshow

In today’s episode, I interview Brenda Bryson, about divorce support for men.

Brenda got divorced herself after a 26 year marriage. She works to guide men through the challenges of divorce by sharing the needed feminine perspective.

In this episode, we speak about the unjust treatment that men specifically face during divorce, including often being blamed for the unsuccessful marriage.

To contact Brenda, email her at hellonewdecisionsforlife@gmail.com

In this week’s episode of Divorcing Well, I chat with mother and daughter Maria and Nicky, who share their story of going through a divorce as a family after an arranged marriage.

It is interesting to be able to hear both Maria’s perspective as the mother in an abusive marriage, and Nicky’s perspective as the daughter witnessing it.  

If you are in an abusive relationship you will relate to Maria but it is very important that you hear Nicky’s perspective on how an abusive relationship between parents, affects their children.  

Nicky and Maria currently work together at Nicky’s firm, CorrWealth, which is designed to provide women with financial support in their transition to divorce.

Tune in to hear about their inspiring story.

To get in touch with Maria and Nicky, visit corrwealth.ca

This week, I am joined by Paola Ortiz, who shares her inspiring story of divorce with listeners.

After immigrating to America at only age 21 with a new baby, Paola felt her and her husband growing apart and blaming each other for their issues, eventually leading to their divorce.

She discusses her struggles with guilt and depression, and how she successfully overcame them.  You won’t want to miss this episode.

Visit Paola at paolasbeautybar.com

This week, I am joined by Wayne Rudson, President of Rudson Valuation Group, to discuss business valuations and income assessments, which are issues that are often seen in family law files involving self-employment.

These assessments are done on the marriage date, and again on the separation date.

Often where one spouse is self employed their reported income may be very different than their actual income so it is important to employ experts like Wayne to determine the true numbers.

Contact Wayne at (416) 598 4502 or visit his website rvg.ca

This week, I am joined by Julie Garcia, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who discusses how to take care of your mental health during a divorce.

We talk about the danger of alcohol dependency, and how to best use other resources, such as medication, safely and effectively.

Julie provides numerous strategies for individuals to be able to successfully get to a place of acceptance and healing during the great loss that is divorce.

You can find Julie at:
juliegarciatherapy.com
Instagram: @juliegarcia_lmft
Phone: (925) 482-6170

In this week’s episode, I chat with Deborah Capaccio who shares her story of marriage, divorce, remarriage and having to make the extremely difficult decision to agree to having her son live across the country with his Dad because that was what was best for him at that time.  

So many parents put their own egos and needs first.  

Deborah vulnerably shares how hard it was to set aside her own needs and ego, to do what was best for her son and in doing so, demonstrates what being a good mother is all about.

You won’t want to miss her story.

In this week’s episode, I am excited to interview Steve Kee, a multi-award winning strategic communications executive who is also divorced and remarried.  

Steve provides listeners with a males perspective on divorce, remarriage and blended families.  

So often we only hear about how women experience divorce so I am grateful that Steve was willing to share his experience to provide insight on how men many view some of the issues similarly and differently. 

To contact Steve, you can find him on Instagram as @steve_kee

In this week’s episode of Divorcing Well, I chat with Christine Knott who shares her inspiring story of resiliency through divorce.  

Christine shares the challenges she went through after an abusive relationship and she discusses how she was able to rebuild her life.  

If you are struggling to rebuild after your separation or divorce, you won’t want to miss this episode.

In this episode Kelly Kubas, a life and divorce coach, joins us to share her story on how she dealt with her divorce and the steps she took for a happier life. 

Kelly tells her story about her life before divorce, and took her personal experience and went back to school to share her knowledge and help others going through difficult divorces just like hers.

She provides her experience and expertise on abusive relationships and what it was like to be in and get out of a situation so traumatic. 

Tune into today's episode, you won't want to miss this story. 

In this week’s episode I chat with successful real estate agent and business coach, Ronn James, about a male perspective on divorce .  

Ronn has been through a few divorces and he shares his insights and the male point of view which we don’t often hear.  

Whether you are male or female, Ronn provides an important perspective as he discusses his divorce challenges and shares his lessons.  

You won’t want to miss this episode.

In today’s episode I chat with Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo, creators of the book “Our Happy Divorce” and talk about the obstacles they have had to overcome throughout their divorce. 

Going through a divorce can be an extremely difficult process that leaves many people in a great amount of distress. 

Ben and Nikki share their story on how they overcome their challenges throughout their divorce and give advice for those going through the same thing.

They provide listeners with the steps they took to get to the healthy friendship that they have now and explain how to create a more positive outlook when it comes to divorce. 

You won't want to miss this episode.

Today I spoke with attorney, Ida Mirzadeh, about the important topic of prenuptial agreements, cohabitation agreements and marriage contracts.

Ida is a family lawyer and has significant expertise in domestic contracts.

These are all extremely important topics for anyone in a relationship to talk about, and Ida explains in detail why.  

In this episode she gives her advice on the importance of marriage agreements and why everyone should have a prenuptial and marriage agreement plans. 

Tune in today to learn all about it. 

To contact Ida visit:

Ida Mirzadeh - Simmons da Silva LLP (sdslawfirm.com)

I am very excited for today’s episode. With me today is Finnerty Steeves who is a writer, producer, and actress who's been in multiple movies, commercials, and television shows including the Sopranos and Orange is the New Black.

Finnerty’s first feature as a writer and producer, alongside actress is in the movie is “before/during/after” which is an extraordinary movie on divorce. Finnerty’s own divorce back in 2010 helped her create the movie that let viewers see what it was like to go through it from her own perspective after her seemingly perfect 15 year marriage came to an end.  

She tries to relate her character to those who have gone through similar situations in hopes of having people relate to the character Jennie.  In our interview we discuss both the movie and Finnerty’s own divorce.  

You won’t want to miss this episode and I highly recommend you watch this exceptional movie.

To contact Finnerty Steeves:

Visit: http://www.finnertysteeves.com/ To watch before/during/after click below: BEFORE/DURING/AFTER (beforeduringafterthefilm.com)

In this week’s episode I am joined by fellow attorney, Patra Sinner, to discuss the difference for clients between litigation and alternative dispute resolution.  

Patra is a Principal Attorney and Mediator with Sodoma Law P.C. and has been practicing law in the United States for over 17 years.  

I always enjoy chatting with a fellow attorney, particularly in another country, and Patra’s unique background in divorce, entertainment law and mediation made our discussion really interesting.  

If you are contemplating whether you should take your divorce to court or consider mediation or arbitration, this episode is for you as we discuss the pros and cons of each approach to help listeners determine what is bet for their situation.

To contact Patra Sinner:

Visit:  https://www.sodomalaw.com/our-people/attorneys/patra-a-sinner/

In this week’s episode I interview Coach T. Anthony, a respected US dating consultant and author of the book, "The Art of Online Seduction".

We discuss dating after divorce and it’s so great to get the male perspective.

In particular, Coach T. Anthony provides an honest male answer to the question, “is it more challenging for women over 50 to find good men?”  

You won’t want to miss this episode.

This week I chat with divorce coach, Elisabeth Parsons, from the Separation Club about the benefits to your divorce and your wallet when you work with a divorce coach.  

Elisabeth provides some great supports to clients going through separation and divorce, and in the interview some has some great tips to manage stress, use your lawyer more effectively, and save money on your legal fees.

In this week’s episode, I chat with life and divorce coach, Paula Seligman, about designing your post divorce life.  

I love this episode because it puts such a positive spin on divorce and how it can be an opportunity to create the life of your dreams.  

Divorce is so often associated with challenges and stress, but Paula shows listeners the positive side of divorce and how it can be an opportunity to design the life that you have always wanted to have.  You won’t want to miss this.

In this week’s episode of Divorcing Well, I interview Ryan Bensen, a Forensic and Litigation Accountant who specializes in complex family law matters involving calculations of income for support and business valuations.  

These issues come up in matters where one party is trying to hide money and their income tax return does not accurately reflect their true income.  

Business valuations are something that is required anytime one party owns or is a partner in a business.  

Often the value of the business can be a highly litigious matter and can significantly affect equalization payments and property division.

In this week’s episode I interview top performing, real estate agent, Anna Oliver, about selling the matrimonial home in a divorce while we are going through the challenges of COVID-19.

Anna provides some great ideas and fantastic advice for those who are in this situation.

To contact Anna, you can email her at annaolivergroup@sothebysrealty.ca

In today?s episode, I interview author and life coach, Shaunna Lee, about the topic of starting over after divorce.  

Many people are devastated by divorce and need to rebuild their life, their finances and the relationships.

Shaunna discusses her own inspiring story and provide some great advice for those who are in the process of starting over following their divorce.

 If you are struggling to begin your post divorce life, you won?t want to miss this episode.

Shaunna Lee can be contacted at:
www.shaunnalee.com

In today?s episode of Divorcing Well, I had the pleasure of interviewing Nikki Bruno.

Nikki is an empowerment coach and founder of The Epic Comeback?, holds degrees from Princeton and Harvard Universities, and has been featured in outlets such as Forbes, Reader?s Digest, Authority Magazine, Cosmopolitan.

Nikki and I delve into her diverse program where we discuss a comeback path and how to turn trauma into opportunity for anyone that has ever experienced a devastating loss . 

To contact Nikki visit:
www.theepiccomeback.com

In today?s episode of Divorcing Well I interview Michael Shuster.  

Michael is Ontario?s first Real Estate Divorce Specialist, Ontario?s first Certified Divorce Specialist, a Certified Negotiator, author and keynote speaker. 

Michael and I discuss common mistakes that couples make when selling the matrimonial home during their divorce.  With his extensive background in real estate,

Michael provides listeners with many tips and strategies for approaching the sale of the matrimonial home when going through separation and divorce.

Michael?s contact information is below:

Web: www.ShusterRealEstate.com
Email:  Mike@ShusterRealEstate.com

In this week?s episode I chat with Accredited Family Mediator, Arbitrator, Social Worker and Divorce Coach Jennifer Barkin about coparenting children with special needs.  

Jennifer discusses the challenges for parents in this situation as well as some of the important issues to consider in parenting plans.

To contact Jennifer, please visit:
www.torontofamilymediation.ca

In this week?s episode of Divorcing Well, I chat with Love Life Coach, Diana Mikas.  

Diana uses her expertise in holistic nutrition , reiki and wellness coaching to help empower women going through divorce and breakups by helping them recover from the trauma, recharge their bodies and reclaim their lives.

So many people going through divorce suffer trauma and Diana discusses how to know when you have post traumatic stress disorder, how to mitigate the damage of trauma and her favourite ways she advises clients to keep calm during the process of divorce.

You can contact Diana at:
www.DianaMikas.com

In this episode of Divorcing Well I chat with lawyer and Divorce Coach, Anita Volikis, about mindset and divorce.

Having a healthy, positive mindset is so important to everything in life, and your divorce is no different.  

Anita provides some great tips for keeping a positive mindset, managing stress, and the difference between suppressing emotions and maintaining a positive outlook.

In honour of World National Suicide Prevention Day on September 10th,  in this week?s episode I had the privilege of interviewing Karen Carrington about the important topic of suicide amongst divorced men, and particularly some of the issues faced by men in the black community who are going through divorce.  

It is such a privilege to have Karen chat with me on this episode about this important topic and she has some excellent advice for men who are going through divorce.

Men often face their own unique challenges and there aren?t the same resources available to them that divorcing women are able to access.

Award winning Talk Show Host, Karen Carrington, is an Author, Mental Health Advocate, Certified Personal Development Trainer, recipient of the Top 100 Black Women to Watch in Canada Award and the 2019 Susan B. Anthony iLead Woman in Leadership Award.

As a charismatic media personality, her talk show, The Karen Carrington Show, features guests of all walks of life including her men's series successfully reaching over half a million views worldwide.

She is a social media influencer, an active member of Women in Film & Television, has been featured on CTV National News and Ever Talk T.V in Hollywood. Karen Carrington's life mission is to leave the planet a better place than she found it making sure everyone felt loved. 

Connect with Karen:
Website: https://www.karencarrington.com/
Instagram: https://instagram.com/thekarencarringtonshow

In today?s episode of Divorcing Well, I chat with the Founder of The Divorce Rehab, Divorce Coach, Wendy Sterling about one of the most important topics facing divorcing couples: boundaries.  

We discuss why you MUST have them, how to enforce them with your ex, family and children, and why they are so important for your own well being.

In this episode of Divorcing Well, I chat with Certified Financial Planning Professional and Financial Educator, Martha Adams about the importance of understanding emotions surrounding money and how to rebuild your financial story after divorce.  

Martha provides important advice, particularly for women, who often find themselves struggling financially after the end of their marriage.  

As Martha says, ?A person?s emotional connection with money and finances is the starting point and one that has been overlooked or even worse, dismissed?.  

Martha provides great information for listeners to learn how to become financially empowered.

To contact Martha:

Email:  martha@marthaadamsmedia.com
Web:  https://www.marthaadamsmedia.com/

Join returning guest, Certified Divorce Coach, Heather Tannenbaum, and myself as we discuss the very important and often challenging task of making non-emotional decisions during your divorce.  

All to often clients find themselves being driven by hurt, anger and other emotions when they are going through their divorce and their emotions can often interfere with making important decisions that are in their long-term best interest.

Heather and I discuss strategies for staying calm, logical and emotion-free when making these important decisions.

To contact Heather:

Email: heather@reconstructinghappy.com
Website: www.ReconstructingHappy.com

In today?s episode, I chat with Catherine Wallis who courageously shares her own divorce story about leaving an abusive relationship, and her journey from loss of self esteem to empowerment.

Catherine?s story is so relatable for so many people that I meet who are struggling through their divorce.  

Catherine?s story provides inspiration and hope that things truly do get better and that the best is yet to come.

In this week?s episode of Divorcing Well, I interview Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Eva Sachs, about the rise of the grey divorce.  

Increasing numbers of couples are splitting up in their 50s, 60s and beyond, and divorce at this time can have serious financial implications as couples head into retirement and old age.

Eva discusses some of the issues that arise and how to best deal with clients divorcing at this stage of life.  If you or your spouse are considering divorce and retirement, you won?t want to miss this episode.

https://evasachs.com/

In this episode, I chat with real estate agent, Jonathan Davis, about how to find the best professional to sell your matrimonial home.

 During times of separation and divorce, stress levels are high and it is important to work with the right professionals.  

Jon discusses the questions you should be asking a prospective agent and how to find the best agent that fits with you.

 To contact Jon, you can email him at: info@jonathandavishomes.com

Coparenting has its challenges but coparenting with an Ex who is also a narcissist is especially difficult.  

In this week?s episode, I interview Accredited Family Mediator and Divorce Coach, Neelam Dhall of Simple Solutions Mediation and we discuss strategies for coparenting with a narcissist.  

Neelam provides tips and advice to ensure that you protect your children?s best interest, maintain your boundaries, and ensure that your own mental health and well being is not compromised in the process. 

To contact Neelam, please visit her website:  www.simplesolutionsmediation.ca

In today?s episode of Divorcing Well, I chat with Vanessa Vakharia of the Math Guru about tips for divorced parents to ensure that their children thrive with respect to their homework and online learning as they go back and forth between their parents homes.  

Often coparents are not on the same page about homework, discipline and rules surrounding studying and learning.  

Vanessa provides fantastic tips to ensure that children thrive and that parents work together no matter how much conflict they may have in their relationship.

More about Vanessa:

Vanessa is the founder and director of The Math Guru, a super cool boutique math & science tutoring studio in Toronto.

She is also the author of Math Hacks, a new book that totally makes math fun, stress-free and relatable for young kids and parents, and the host of Math Therapy, a podcast that works through guests? math trauma.

She has her Bachelor of Commerce, Teaching Degree, and Masters of Math Education. She appears regularly at conferences globally, and on national television and news outlets as an expert in math education.  

Her #goals are to be Lady-Gaga-famous and to totally change math culture so that STEM is finally as cool and accessible as basically every single Taylor Swift song ever.

She failed Grade 11 math twice, which was the best thing that ever happened to her. Sidenote but totally relevant:

Vanessa is a founding member of Toronto indie-rock band Goodnight, Sunrise. Mindy Kaling is her idol and Vanessa believes that she should be yours too!

In today?s episode of Divorcing Well I interview Michael Shuster, also know as the Divorce Guy.  

Michael is Ontario?s first Real Estate Divorce Specialist, Ontario?s first Certified Divorce Specialist, a Certified Negotiator, author and keynote speaker. 

Michael and I discuss what is often the most valuable asset in a divorce, the matrimonial home.

With his extensive background in real estate, Michael provides listeners with many tips and strategies for approaching the sale of the matrimonial home when going through separation and divorce.

 Michael?s contact information is below:
Instagram: @the_divorce_guy
Web:  www.thedivorceguy.ca

In today?s episode of Divorcing Well I interview Jeanne Foot about the topic of divorce and substance abuse.  

Divorce is stressful and often people are inclined to self medicate with alcohol or drugs which can lead to significant problems affecting health, jobs and custody of children.  

Jeanne is an internationally certified addiction counsellor and holistic health practitioner with a wealth of experience helping patients with substance abuse issues using a holistic perspective.  

Jeanne discusses how to know if a problem is developing, what to do if you are concerned you may have a problem, and healthy alternatives to self medicating.

 You can contact Jeanne at:

 Web: www.therecoveryconcierge.com
Email:  jeanne@therecoveryconcierge.com

In this episode of Divorcing Well, I interview Charlotte Paul, a financial advisor and the leader of Perspective Wealth Management of Raymond James.  

We discuss the important topic of divorce and finances.  Divorce cuts at the heart of many people?s financial security with often long-term repercussions.

Understanding money and being comfortable with it is extremely import.  

Charlotte provides great information and tips about the importance of understanding your family finances and planning for your financial future both during marriage and after divorce.

 Charlotte?s contact information:

Web:  www.perspectivewealth.ca
Email:  Charlotte.paul@raymondjames.ca

In this week?s episode of Divorcing Well I chat with Dr. Ohood Alharbi, a nutrigenomics expert and owner of Personalize My Diet, an online nutrition clinic focused on nutrition consultations tailored to each clients? DNA.

Divorce is a very stressful time in our lives and so it is important to take care of ourselves by eating properly and being mindful of our nutrition.  

Dr. Ohood discusses how stress affects our body and provides great advice on how to make sure you are getting the nutrition that you need during this challenging time.

Below is Dr. Ohood?s contact information:

Web:  www.gene.diet
Email: ohood@gene.diet

In this episode, I interview certified life coach, Anita Volikis, who specializes in separation and divorce recovery.  

Prior to becoming a coach, Anita practiced family law for over 20 years .  

We discuss the role of a divorce coach, how it differs from a lawyer or therapist and why clients can benefit from the use of a coach. 

In this episode, I interview Certified Divorce Coach, Heather Tannenbaum, about healing after divorce.  We discuss the healing process, how long it takes, tips for getting through it and how to come out the other side and thrive.  

Heather discusses tools for healing, how she helps clients get through the process, how to parent when you are suffering yourself, and she provides inspiration for listeners that it is possible to reinvent your self after divorce and step into your full potential.

Heather Tannenbaum is the author of RECONSTRUCTING HAPPY; How to Use Your Divorce As An Opportunity To Create A Better You. Heather?s blogs and articles about co-parenting and not only surviving, but thriving after divorce have been featured in several paper and online magazine publications including Huffington Post. She has also generated content for several divorce and co-parenting websites.

Heather is a CDC Certified Divorce Coach? and runs her own practise where she helps her clients navigate through their divorce by helping them to make sound decisions for their future

In this episode, I interview Bruce Van Stone, a Canadian Certified Counsellor (CCC) with a Masters of Education in Psychological Counselling.  

We discuss tips and advice for managing the stress of being in the middle of the COVID-19 pandemic while going through a divorce.  Bruce provides some great strategies for keeping yourself from getting overwhelmed and being well positioned to make important decisions in your divorce without letting your stress level interfere with your judgment.

You can find Bruce:

Bruce Van Stone MEd CCC

Integrated Services Delivery-Counsellor

Fredericton Southside Cluster

262-6723

In this episode I interview psychologist, Dr. Renee Mudrey about how parents can help children cope with divorce.  We discuss the dos and don?ts of coparenting through divorce, the harmful effects of parental alienation, how to talk to your child about divorce and how divorce impacts different age groups.

If you are going through divorce and have children, this episode will provide you with important information on helping your children through this challenging time.

In today?s episode of Divorcing Well, I am joined by dating strategist and relationship expert, Nisrien Pichler, to discuss the topic of dating after divorce.  

We discuss when to date, the challenges of dating after the end of a marriage, whether to introduce your children to someone you are dating, and much more.

 Dating is hard enough these days, but Nisrien provides some excellent advice to help the newly separated and divorced navigate their way back into the dating world.

In today?s episode of Divorcing Well, I interview Jason Eric Ross, a Licensed Psychotherapist (NY/FL/GA) and co-author of the parenting book entitled ?You Can Say NO and Your Child Will Still Love You?.

We discuss the most important divorce topic which is parenting through divorce and how to make the divorce process easier for your children.

Jason addresses how to tell children of various ages that Mom and Dad are separating, how to deal with a spouse who badmouths you to your children, managing parental alienation, co-parenting with an abuser and much more.

This episode provides a wealth of information to guide parents on helping their children cope with divorce.

Covid-19 is having a significant effect on our daily lives and how family law is being practiced right now.  In the debut episode of Divorcing Well, I chat with fellow family law lawyer, Chantalle Sawision, about the effects of Covid-19 on family law clients.  

We discuss the court closures, how custody and access orders are being affected, the financial implications, and much more.  We even point out the silver lining of Covid-19 for the way that family law is practiced.  

If you are separated or divorced, and have questions about the effects of recent events on your family law matter, you won?t want to miss this episode. 

Divorce sucks, but it doesn?t have to be all bad. I am Leanne Townsend, a family law lawyer, and I want to help you divorce well.

Divorcing Well aims to help provide listeners with the tools and knowledge they need to support themselves legally, financially, mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.

I want listeners to tune into Divorcing Well because they are looking for the knowledge and inspiration to get them through the rough days, and on the positive days, they will gain the tools that they need to heal and move through the various stages of grief that divorce can bring.