The only way that women will become more empowered in this world is by becoming financially independent. We are inundated these days on social media with tips about selfcare and constant posts about the importance of it in our lives.
A "tire kicker" is someone who appears to be interested in buying something, asks a lot of questions, uses up a lot of your time, but then does not buy anything. Sadly, the "Tire Kickers" have expanded from not only wasting people's time in the world of sales, they are now a force to be reckoned with in the dating world of 2018.
In this world of "coffee meets", "hanging out", and "Netflix and chill", do people even go on real dates anymore? As someone who longs for some of the old style courtship, I am starting to think that "real dates" are becoming an endangered species. While I have certainly met some wonderful gentlemen who know how to properly court a woman and take her out for a wonderful evening, for every man like that, there are dozens who just want to hang out. I am sure that there are many men finding the same thing about women, so my comments in this blog are aimed at both genders.
A friend of mine gave me a piece of dating advice a few years ago. She said, "You need to meet a man when he is newly separated because once he has been single for too long, he will enjoy single life and not want to commit." At the time I thought that this was interesting advice, and I wasn't sure whether it was true or not. Now, as I enter yet another year of single life, I am beginning to wonder if this statement is not just true of men, but of women also. Is it possible that if we are single for too long we start to enjoy the independence, lack of drama and accompanying freedom so much, that with each passing year we become more reluctant to give it up, and thereby become almost undateable?
In our world of social media, insta-stories, snapchat and all of the other mediums available, it is easy to connect with people all over the world. This means that we can develop relationships with people who we have never met in person. We can directly message them, follow their lives on social media, and possibly even take it to the next level and talk to them on Skype or FaceTime. Yet if we never actually meet in person, can we really consider these people our friends?
As a family lawyer, the two biggest concerns most clients have is whether they will have enough money and whether they will ever find love again. Love and money are at the core of so much of our lives. When couples divorce, money is often a major issue. It is also at the centre of many fights in a marriage.
The modern dating world with the easily accessible and wide range of daters available through online dating and other avenues, makes it difficult to pick just one person without feeling like you are settling. It gives rise to the grass is always greener syndrome and helps create unrealistic expectations of what we may be able to find.
Let's be honest. No one likes a Debbie Downer. We all appreciate positivity and good energy. This is especially true in the dating world. We want our relationships to be fun and to complement our already stressful lives. Modern day daters, in particular, seem to only want relationships that are fun, light, easy....."good vibes only." While "good vibes" are definitely important, "good vibes only" should not be what we strive for in a relationship.