All too often in social media and other places I see people posting about how they want "good vibes only" and how they have a "no negativity" zone. At the risk of emitting "negative vibes", I have to say that I find these mantras to be ridiculous. I will even go further and say that not only are they ridiculous, they are harmful to people, our relationships and our ability to connect with one another.
As women, how many times a week, or even a day, do we feel like we aren't measuring up to this unattainable standard? We feel less than, not good enough, and like we are constantly disappointing our family, our friends and ourselves. Where does this pressure to be perfect come from and how can we stop it?
Life after divorce can be lonely so it is important to be open to finding love again, but you must be ready. Here are 5 things to consider before returning to the dating world after your divorce that will help you gauge whether or not you are ready.
If you are a single mother, like me, it is even more important that you do these things for yourself despite the greater challenges you have to manage as compared to married mothers. You must find time for yourself. Workout, date, find a career you enjoy, spend child-free time with friends. These things are imperative to do if you want to truly thrive, be happy, and be an excellent role model for your children.
Over the past 10 years, I have seen my weight fluctuate up and down. As an emotional eater, in times of stress I get heavier, and in times of happiness and contentment, I am lighter. I guess I wear my feelings on my hips, butt and tummy. After years of yo-yo dieting, binge eating, starving myself, and trying every new diet fad out there, I have learned a thing or two about successful weight loss, and weight management.
Loving myself has kept me on track with eating healthy, exercising and sticking to my healthier lifestyle. Looking better and feeling better about myself has affected my interactions with others resulting in an expanded social circle and increased self-confidence. Increased self-confidence has opened up unlimited career possibilities.