All too often in social media and other places I see people posting about how they want "good vibes only" and how they have a "no negativity" zone. At the risk of emitting "negative vibes", I have to say that I find these mantras to be ridiculous. I will even go further and say that not only are they ridiculous, they are harmful to people, our relationships and our ability to connect with one another.
The holiday season is always a tough time during a divorce and for the first few years after. It serves as a reminder of happier family times, and also puts enormous stress on divorcing parents who feel pressure to maintain the status quo while their whole world may be falling apart. While there is no magical solution to cure the holiday blues, here are some tips to make the season a little bit easier:
Just like with the seasons, change is inevitable. For any relationship to last long-term, partners need to be adaptable and committed to adjusting to life's changing seasons. With the holidays coming next month, and the increased opportunity for family time, November is a great time to reflect on our relationships, and make sure we are adjusting with the times to weather the future together as a team.
Fear based decisions are never good ones. Knowledge is power and while we never have a crystal ball, relationship decisions can be made a lot easier if we take the steps to gain knowledge to empower ourselves. This can be as simple as setting up a consultation with a family law lawyer to find out about your rights.
What two factors determine how well children fare after divorce? Mom and Dad. It seems like it should be a no brainer that having a good relationship with BOTH parents is critical to children's well being. Yet many judges still favour mothers in cases where custody is being ordered by the court.
With high divorce rates, less people marrying and the easy access people have to meet others through the internet, one must wonder whether marriage and long-term monogamous relationships are becoming extinct. I sometimes wonder if by the time my children are 30 whether marrying or finding a life long partner will even be something that is considered important.
September is a month of new beginnings and renewal. This feeling of a fresh start in September stems from our childhood days of heading back to school. While we are feeling committed to making positive changes in our life, what better time could there be to take a serious look at our relationship with our partner and to re-commit to making our relationship healthier and stronger?
As a family lawyer, the two biggest concerns most clients have is whether they will have enough money and whether they will ever find love again. Love and money are at the core of so much of our lives. When couples divorce, money is often a major issue. It is also at the centre of many fights in a marriage.