If you are considering separation or divorce, or have already started the process, you may want to consider the many advantages offered by a holistic approach to the process. Family law is not suited to the adversarial process that has evolved in our legal system. A holistic approach recognizes that the consequences of divorce and family breakdown are often devastating, and there is lots of healing to be done.
Why not incorporate healing into the entire divorce process so that parties can act from a place of wellness when making decisions, rather than from a place of devastation?
Here is a summary of five of the inter-related advantages of a holistic approach to divorce:
- The biggest advantage of using a holistic approach is that it will benefit any children who are involved. If parents are healing and taking care of themselves, they will be better parents and make better decisions for their children. It is far better for children if their well-being is being determined by rational, healthy parents who love them, rather than a judge who knows little about them and to whom they are just another case.
- A holistic approach will likely result in significantly reduced costs. Everyone knows that litigation is very expensive. Collaboration, mediation and a holistic approach create a process designed to be less adversarial, promoting cooperation and agreement. This reduces costs.
- A holistic approach using a lawyer also trained in life coaching or therapy allows the client to work through emotional issues without having to hire a separate professional and spend money reacquainting someone else with what is going on. This results in further cost savings. Even if the other party is using a more adversarial approach and the divorce has more resulting conflict, using a holistic lawyer will mean that the lawyer is able to help the client deal with the emotional challenges more effectively.
- Using a holistic approach ensures clients are taking care of their mental, emotional, spiritual and physical self during one of life’s most stressful and devastating events. This not only benefits the client, it benefits his or her children to have a parent who is practicing self-care and therefore, is better equipped to meet the needs of the child.
- Contrary to popular belief, divorce is not just a legal event. As countless couples in the throes of separation can attest, accusations about the past and fears about the future can make constructive conversation impossible. As partners “lawyer-up” emotions often drive the agenda, but yet the legal process is not the place to deal with emotions. Using a lawyer who is also trained as a life coach or therapist will help a client with all facets of the matter, not just the legal.
We have learned the many benefits to approaching our family and health from a holistic perspective, why not bring this holistic approach into family law matters? If you are interested in learning more about the benefits of a holistic approach to family law or are involved in a family law matter and need assistance, please contact me and we can discuss how I might be able to help.